In College? Here's a Scanvenger Hunt For You

College Scavenger Hunt: Boys v. Girls

On Campus-

Both:

1.     Video record yourself and one other doing the cut-nye-joe in the library for 30 seconds.

2.     Go to someone’s dorm room and ask them for a kiss on the cheek. Take a picture for proof.

3.     Run the length of high street from the university police to the admissions building topless. {girls can keep bra on}

4.     Get a marker tattoo from a stranger.

5.     Get a picture with 10 different people.

Girls:

1.     Get a guy’s pair of boxers.

2.     Get a guy’s hat.

3.     Get 3 guy’s phone numbers written on your body.

Guys:

1.     Get a girl’s pair of underwear.

2.      Get 3 girls phone numbers written on your body.

3.      Get a girl’s scarf.

Off Campus-

Both:

1.     Burger King crown

2.     Plank on a headstone in a cemetery

3.     Ding-dong ditch a random house {record it}

4.     Put a cone in a random driveway

5.     Dress a fire hydrant.

6.     Steal someone’s lawn decoration.

Girls:

1.     Buy a box of condoms, whip cream, cherries, chocolate syrup, sexy bra and a sexy CD all at once.

2.     Flash 3 guys your bra while driving. {record it}

3.     Go to a playground and strip down to your undies to music {record it}

Guys:

1.     Buy a box of tampons and chocolate and Kleenex and advil all at once.

2.     Go to a loungerie store and purchase a matching thong and bra.

3.     Take a picture with just your boxers on and the bra in a public area.

So you want to make it big

So lately all I've been thinking about is my future and how I want it to turn out and at the end of each fantasy I can sum it all up with one word...big.

I have big plans and big hopes and big dreams. I want to make it big in my future.

Have you ever heard of the ten year plan that some people make? Well my plan is like that but I don't have a time limit I just have my plans and what I want to accomplish and when I get there I get there. That way there's no added pressure.

Here's my plan:

I'm going to finish college at Eastern CT State University and graduate with my bachelors in Sports Management with a double minor in coaching and physical education. After that I am going to get into graduate school and get my masters in Sports Management. After I graduate with my Masters I am going to pack up my things and travel across the country to Los Angeles, California. Where I will get an apartment and find a job at a major sports agency in the city. I'll start off in a lower division position but gradually make my way up to be one of the upper ranks personal. In addition to being a sports agent I will find a local school whether it be high school or college and coach their soccer team because that's the #1 thing I have the outmost passion for. And I'll live happily ever after.

That's my plan...big and detailed isn't it? That's just the way I think...all my thoughts can't be incomplete they need to be thought out to the end and have to be vivid and detailed not blurry and missing spots. It's the only way I feel as though I am in control of the situation and the outcome. Crazy right? I know (: But hey if you wanna be big you gotta think big. And that's exactly what I am doing!

My Advice: to be big you must think big so stretch your arms up high and never stop reaching for the biggest thing you can grab a hold of.

Sincerely,
Nina Altieri

Friendships: What are they really?

FRIENDSHIP...

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO YOU?

 

 

I'll give you my interpretation of the word.. It is a bond that grows stronger overtime that consists of heartache and heartbreak but also laughter and love. It is a bond that out does all other bonds and is created with time and patience and the ability to accept someone for who they are. Friendships should make you a better version of yourself...not changing you just bettering you. Friendships are carefully mended delicacies that can be easily broken if the wrong foundation is put into place. The greatest of friendships are the ones you tell to you children or grandchildren so that maybe one day they can have their own great friendships to tell their children and grandchildren. Friendships are everlasting bonds that never go away if the are nurtured the right way.

 

It is easy for people to call others their friends, but are they really your friends? Sit down and ask yourself what does the word friendship mean to you and if all the people you call friends meet your definition then you are one of the lucky ones because it so very rare that one can call many people their true friends. However, if the people you call friends do not meet your definition well...you just had an epiphany. An "ahah!" moment, and I credit you.

 

I've had friendships but their are only a few..to be exact actually their are only three people who I can say truly know me and accept me for who I am. All the others are just bystanders. And yes I understand it sounds harsh and mean to call them that but in all honesty they really are. The people we call "friends" usually turn out to be people who make an appearance, stick around for a bit and then disappear and then you never hear from them again...so what else are we supposed to call them if we can't call them friends...?

 

Friendships are tricky, and yes we can have friends...people who have always been around and continue to be. There are levels to friendships and we all classify each level in our own ways depending on what we want from each one. For me... I have three levels:

 

1. Acquaintances:  the people who make an appearance in my life but don't make a lasting impression and are only their to pass my time.

2. Friends: people who I talk to on a regular basis and who I get along with but never really go into detail about personal lives or ever hang out outside of an event, class, or work.

3.Best friends: the people who I have gotten close to and have opened up and who I look to for advice, comfort and fun times.

 

Friendships can also come and go but its the ones that last that are the ones that were meant to be.

 

My advice: Live you life and meet new people...maybe one day you'll telling your grandkids about them.

 

Sincerely,

Nina <3

 

 



Be Better and Surrender

Attraction. Its a word that is so simple and is used everyday by everyone. In life, we normally use the word attraction when we are talking about the opposite sex (or same sex). We use it to describe a feeling we get in our stomachs when we like someone or when we are captured by someone. It isn't a hard thing to feel. And most of the time we can't control it. It is just something that we all feel towards someone else no matter who they are.

Recently, I've come face to face with attraction with someone I've known for quite a few years now and although we barely talk or hang out there's always an instance when we do talk and hang out that that attraction comes racing back to me and it is so very hard to deny and push away. This person I can talk to about everything and anything and not feel judged because they feel just as comfortable talking to me about everything and anything as well. That makes it easier, but also harder at the same time because that just makes the attraction stronger.

But here's the funny thing about attraction...you never know if the other person feels it too and that part will always keep you guessing and a little bit secure. It is difficult to know that you have an attraction for someone but don't know if they have it back. You will never know, unless either you or the other person says so. And until that happens your left clueless which ultimately is not the greatest place to be when it comes to relationships. Because in relationships as humans we like to know everything and have it all right there on the table with nothing to hide so that we don't get hurt. Unfortunately that is never the case and as humans we get hurt its just inevitable.

Have you ever encountered something like this? Tell me your story.

At the same time recently, I've encountered that I've been feeling guilt. And normally I don't regret anything because I make my own decisions and even if other don't approve or agree with me my decisions are my own and for my well being not theirs.

...but yet here I am stating that I feel guilty over one of my decisions and as I've come to realize I handle that guilt by baring it deep with in me and not telling anyone and hoping it will go away. Sad part is...it doesn't. And not I just feel worse. I feel guilty because I hurt someone un-necessarily and its taken me this long to realize that I could've handled the situation way better, but I didn't and I feel dumb for not realizing sooner.

Let me tell you this, if you ever feel guilty about anything you have done never ever apologize for what you've done. Only learn to accept the guilt and use it to make you a better person in the future so that you never regret or feel guilty for the same thing again.

That's what I will be doing and have been doing, and I can honestly say that I have been feeling better about the situation and myself.

My Advice: Don't deny the inevitable of falling to the feelings of attraction. Don't ever feel the need to apologize for your actions, just accept them.

Sincerely,
Nina <3

My Final Words

What is today?
Today is the day that I've realized I was utterly and completely in love with you.
But you dwell on my past mistakes. Blaming me for things that I only regret.
I spend countless hours crying over you.
But when?
When will you forgive me.
Tomorrow. Next week. Next month. Next year. Never?
You look at me like I'm a disease.
Like I am not that same girl you were once also in love with.
But yet here I stand.
Face glistening with falling tears. Staring you dead in the eye.
Do I look different? Do I act different?
Those things that I have done in the past are my un- regrettable mistakes.
My horrible memories that I can not erase.
My hearts dwells on how much I have hurt you and only wishes that I could remove that pain the I cause you.
That searing arrow that I have plunged into your heart breaking it; over and over again.
It has been months since I have looked at you like this.
Do you not see that in my eyes shows complete compassion and utter apologies to you.
You are the boy that could make me smile in my worst of days.
The boy who held me tight and dealt with me during my darkest hours.
Through friendships broken.
Through separation.
Through every up and down the world threw at us.
We've been through it all.
And now I cant imagine living through the rest that will be thrown at me;
to knock me off my feet and make me feel like my world is at an end.
But see I have no recollection of your presence in my life as of this second, of this minute, of this hour.
My finger has pressed that delete button on my keyboard and has erased your folder from my files.
You are forever gone.
Every letter. Every message. Every comment. Every text. Every contact connection.
Gone.
Like my heart is. When you took it.
But you have harshly returned it.
And now I am not sure what to do with it.
But know this.
That barrier of not knowing what to do will be destroyed.
No matter how long it takes.
Because unlike you I have people who will lift me back up onto my two feet that were once steady on ground.
I have people who will always catch me when I fall; no matter if it is an inch or a mile.
Those files remain.
But yours; yours are forever, mentally, and physically DELETED from my life.
Because my life, my life is my drawing board where I map out my future every single day of my new better life without you.
So these are my final words to you:

Goodbye.

Not So Good Day

So you know when your having a really great day or maybe just a good day and your in a good mood and then all of a sudden something happens that completely ruins the entire day?

...yeah well I had one of those days today.

Somebody decided that they wanted to insult one of my closes friends who I hold dear to my heart and who is like family to me and when someone decides to comment on one of my friends well you better be wise with what you say.

I hate the fact that people can just judge other people just because they do something that that person doesn't think is ethical enough or is proper. I mean you don't even know the true person behind what they do and you can't get past your prejudice walls to get to know them. I mean it might be clique to say but "DO NOT JUDGE A BOOK BASED ON THIER COVER".

I don't really have much to say today other than that quote right there because it basically says it all and if you are too ignorant or naïve to take it and apply it in your life then you should be ashamed of yourself and so should anyone who knows you.

That's it.

My Advice: Don't take for people for granted...they might surprise you.

Sincerely
Nina <3

It's Been Awhile

It's been awhile since  I last blogged, sorry for that to all of you who read and absorb all I am saying. Life has been really hectic lately and it looks like it won't be slowing down any time soon. I wish it would though because it feels to me that there is so much I'm missing out on because the days just roll on through so fast that if you blink you will probably miss out.

In other news though... I wanted to talk about pressures today and why we give into them.

The other night I was at a party and for some reason I started drinking and for someone who doesn't drink that much or at all for the matter it came as a big shocker to me when I realized what I had done. It got me thinking: "why did I start drinking in the first place?" The answer is: Pressure.

Now just because people don't force you into doing something doesn't mean you aren't pressured to do it. The status quo for this generation is so unreal and undignified that it is unimaginable to think of a time when there wasn't nearly as many girls getting pregnant before they get out of high school or to think of a time when college students didn't spend every weekend getting hammered or stoned. I mean what have we come to?

Doesn't anyone remember the stories of their parents childhood and what they did to pass the time and to just hang out. I mean why can't we have a pickup game of some sport and play for hours on end and then go to a friends house and just chill and watch movies. I mean doesn't anyone just get tired of abiding to the status quo that we've seemed to have put in place for ourselves. I know I'm tired of it and I disappointed to say that I'm guilty of abiding to it.

Pressures to do things are always around us and as kids we fall victims to the evil doings of it and we can't control ourselves and rationalize. Pressures are over rated and the status quo is deflated. I find no reason for any of it.

But the reality is no matter how loud I voice this truth it will never change and the world around all of us will continue to have pressures and we will always have to live to the status quo,

My advice: Try and break that status quo and be that one person that stands mighty and tall. Don't give in to the pressures of society but be an individual that does their own thing rather than be a groupie that does what everyone else is doing. BE DIFFERENT YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE!

Sincerely,
Nina <3

Gay Marriage Support Outbreak

Lately on Facebook all anyone has been concerned about is whether or not gay marriage is right or wrong and where they stand in the argument.

Everyone has the their own beliefs, values, and opinions. It is impossible to try and change someone's mind once they've made it up... I mean you can try but it will be a lot of hard work, frustration, anxiety and a slim chance of success...not so worth it.

Let them think what they want. If its opposite from you then deal with it because you have your own thoughts and they'll just have to deal with that fact too.

In my opinion on this whole thing is short and simple and too the point.

...Marriage is a right, a freedom, an option to all those in this world who have found someone that they want to be with forever.
....Love is a gift that each of us posses and given the option of who to give it too. It does not come with a handbook or a rule book.

What a person decides to do with that love is their choice. What actions they decide to do to preserve that love is their choice.

Gay marriage is just a label that we have all put on the face of all those who are gay to make them feel lesser of themselves.

Think about this... has there ever been an instance in your life that you did something that somebody did not approve of? or has there ever been an instance where you decide to marry someone of opposite sex even though everyone said no to it?

If you answered yes to either of those questions then you now deserve the label of a hypocrite.

My advice: Don't give a damn about what others think just because it makes them uncomfortable they are not you and they do not live your life and love the people you love.

Sincerely,
Nina <3

You are Beautiful

https://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=xGPeNN9S0Fg

I find this video mesmerizing.

It's not because its One Direction and they're all that any girl can talk about... but because what they say in this music video is the foundation to many great relationships.

How many of you out there are with some one that doesn't appreciate you? or critiques you? or puts you down?

If you are please get out of the relationship full speed running no matter how hard it might be because at the end of the day you will find someone who will accept you and treat you the way you should be treated no matter what faults you have. Your faults make you special. You should embrace them. And so should anyone else who wants to befriend you or love you. Never settle for less than you absolutely deserve.

This song is the handbook for how a woman should be loved and how a woman would like to be loved.

Now I'm not going to speak for every woman because we are all different but I am convinced that at least one verse of this song can touch every single woman on this planet.

My relationship is with my best friend. He is everything I am not. Where there are flaws in me there are strengths in him. And where the is strength in me there are flaws in him. To me that's the best kind of relationship. One where no matter how crazy, or stupid, or weird, or just out right abnormal you act like your partner still loves you and still accepts you.

Do not be scared of embarrassment. Accepting embarrassment and striving for embarrassment is the best thing you could do for your self. Because it shows that you are not afraid. Don't be afraid.

To the men: accept your women or the women around you. Don't make her feel less than she really is or ignore the fact that they are not perfect. Reality check: WE ARE HUMAN! We do dumb things and we make fools of ourselves but hey who doesn't!

My advice: love everything about yourself and the ones you love because one day they'll be all you have left. Resentment is not a fathomable.

Sincerely,
Nina <3

They Are Not You

Four words. Four very simple words that hold so much depth and meaning and understanding and interpretation.

It is easy for us to walk the side walks to our streets and think I am just like everyone else. And yes sometimes the ones closes to us make us believe the same exact thing. Never giving us the opportunity to feel different or unique or special. And when we do take that step outside of our little comfort box we sometimes get thrown down, and then thrown down again and then again. It is impossible at some points to feel anything but exactly like everyone else.

This picture imitates the idea that we can be whoever we want to be and that if those around us can't hack it to toss them aside and find someone who will think of you in the context of those four very simple words.

When you find that person, whether they are a friend, a loved one, a lover, a teacher, a coworker...whoever they are embrace them and thank them.

Because they have reminded you and assured you that you are different and unique and special.

My advice: They are not you. So don't make them be you.

Sincerely,
Nina <3

Funny in that way...

Isn't it funny that when your world seems to be going exactly how you want it to go and makes you feel exactly the way you want to feel something unexpected always gets blown our way knocking us off of our hiatus and telling us NO!

I don't think its that funny.

Recently, I've attempted to transfer universities and I got lucky and was accepted to all the schools I wanted to go to and had so many doors beginning to be opened for me. I received good amounts of money from them and I felt accomplished. Not only that but my school work at the university I am attending I had all my work completed and done and everything was great. No stress. No worries.

Boy, did I have it wrong.

My grandpa past away the morning after I found out I'd been accepted to my #1 school. My world crumbled to pieces right before my eyes. How could it be that life can be so joyous and magnificent one day and completely mournful and sad the next. I  never got the chance to tell him what I'd done. I never got to see his lips turn up and his eyes glisten because he was proud of me. Never got to hear him say the words I longed to hear which were "You will do great things one day". Something he always told me when I successfully did something. He was my motivation.

And now....now I am broken. And I don't have the fight to want to go to a different school or pursue something bigger than me. Without him around I feel as though I have lost a part of me that always pushed me to be more and do more and not think twice about what the outcome would be because no matter what happened I had strived to do it and that's what was important and what I would carry with me for therest of my life.

Now, that's all gone. And so is he.

Life is funny that way, bringing up one and tearing you down the next.

My advice: Role with the punches, even if it takes you awhile just role with them.

Sincerely,
Nina <3